1 Corinthians 7:15-16
But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
A Christian should not be the cause of a separation or divorce. The unbelieving spouse may want to separate. Paul here says to let them do so. I have known Christians who married unbelievers with the hope and expectation that the other person would become a Christian, but it often does not happen.
Why should Christians never be the cause of divorce? If they have the unconditional love of Christ in them, then they can show that love to their unbelieving spouse, not in a judgmental way, but it a way that is attractive. There may be need for separation due to unusual circumstances like abuse or adultery, but most separations and divorces these days are over trivial matters that love could and should overlook.
Again, the wisest thing is to marry a strong Christian who has been sold out to Christ and who is seeking God’s kingdom first. This will assure that both people are on the same path and are listening to the Holy Spirit’s leading on a daily basis. This does not mean that there won’t be problems and challenges but that there is a resource to overcome these.
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